Versatile Blogger Award

I’d like to thank Astrid for my third blog award! Heading into my second month of blogging, I could start to get an inflated ego. Hehe It is much appreciated though and I continue to really enjoy my blogging community.

The rules:

  1. Thank the person that has nominated you & include a link to their blog.
  2. Nominate at least 15 blogs of your choice.
  3. Link your nominees and let them know of your nomination.
  4. Share seven different facts about yourself.

Seven facts about me:

  1. I’m a mom, although I never thought I would be (to a human anyway.)
  2. I grew up on a farm.
  3. I became a vegetarian at age 14.
  4. I have a teaching degree that I’ll never use.
  5. I love to grow and care for plants and animals.
  6. I enjoy cooking/baking.
  7. I’d rather be making a to do list than one about myself right now. 😉

My award nominees are as follows:

Blissfully Informed Hippie Chick

JoeWritesHisWrongs

We Called Him Lucky

My Friday Blog

Also Known As Mama

Happily Single Mum Of 2

Stephellaneous

Souldier Girl

DeekShatar20

Jsack’s Mom

Mama Liberated

Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers

The MomHood

Pocketful Of Pebbles

Free Your Kids

 

(I’m opting not to contact each person, for time saving purposes. Plus, this way I’ll see who’s reading, right?!)

 

 

She Liked Me…She Really Liked Me

You never know what people will think of you when they get to know what you’re really like. They often surprise you if you give them the chance.

A neighbor of mine came over to deliver something I had ordered from her daughter’s fundraiser. It was freezing cold outside so I invited her in while I rummaged for the funds. She commented how “homey” our place was and how she really liked how I had our place set up. Our living room is filled with the usual couch, TV and comfy chair but it also has most of B’s toys and a bookshelf holding things he’s made.

In conversation, it came up that we home school and she was really excited about it. She wished she could do that. I told her we actually unschool and how that’s done and she kept agreeing with me that it sounds exactly like how learning should take place. I explained about my nanny job and how I make it work so I can be employed and be with B.

Then she shared with me the challenges her daughter’s having at school and that the school would like her to be medicated. We talked about how similar our children are and how different our lives are than maybe we had intended.

I told her my basement roommate is moving out soon and I’m considering taking kids in as a new work from home job. She really hoped that I would and said she knows a few people who could use after school care. So, it’s something I’ll think about.

We haven’t always lived in the best neighborhoods and there’s even lyrics to a song that sum it up at times; “I ain’t have neighbors, that’s why they call it hood.” It was good to connect with someone who lives across the street and actually thought what we do in here isn’t weird or crazy. I could get used to that!

Oh, the Humanity…

I’ve been too overwhelmed by the news and everyone’s reactions to it, to write anything. My son and I are empathic, which means we’re very sensitive to other people’s feelings and emotions and almost take those on as our own. It can be crushing for me as an adult still, so I protect B by limiting his access to the news.

He doesn’t need to know how many people have died in the past couple weeks or who all the ‘bad guys’ of the world are. Most of us don’t. I’m not going to encourage a fearful mentality of perceived enemies.

Yes, he knows that there is war and that people kill each other for countless reasons. He doesn’t understand why and I’m afraid I’m no help there because I don’t understand it either.

What I will do is raise him with unconditional love, show him that all of us have the same needs despite our differences, and help him interact with others from a place of oneness. Using the word oneness has such a hippie connotation, but it really is a world view that we could use more of to describe humanity. We’re all in this together.

Sunshine Blogger Award

Thanks to Coral, at Swimming Without the Manual, I have received the Sunshine Blogger Award! This award is for bloggers who spread sunshine and positivity throughout the blogging community. Thank you!

The rules for accepting the award are as follows:
  • Thank the person/people who nominated you
  • Answer the eleven questions from your nominator(s)
  • Nominate eleven other bloggers and give them eleven questions to answer
These are the questions I was asked:
  1.  What inspired you to start blogging? I answered this one here.
  2. What is the best book you’ve ever read? I’ve read so many books in my life that there’s no way I could narrow it down.
  3. What is the best movie you’ve ever seen? There are only a few that I’ll watch more than once and “Gladiator” is one and “Benny and Joon” is another. Are they the best? Maybe not. I love them both though.
  4. What attracts you first to a new song, the lyrics or the music? I’ve always been very much into lyrics but also love instrumental music with no lyrics. It’s probably more of a feel that attracts me.
  5. When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? I wanted to be a veterinarian because of my love of animals.
  6. What type of vacation do you prefer – loafing on a gorgeous beach or sight seeing in a cool city? Loafing for sure.
  7.  If you had the talent to be in the Olympics, would it be summer games or winter games? Summer, I’m not much a fan of winter. Brr.
  8. Would you prefer an afternoon at the art museum or the museum of science? Yes? lol
  9. What is your favorite season of the year? Spring for sure! I love when everything comes back to life again.
  10. What is your favorite quote? Helen Keller’s “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.”
  11. If you could do just one thing that would make a huge difference in the world, what would it be? I’m doing it. Raise a child with unconditional love, gentle discipline, respect and patience.

The eleven blogs I’d like to nominate are;

Astrid’s Words

Happiness is Here

Ann Cavitt Fisher

The Lonely Tribalist

A Curious Mind

Smiling Away Allergies

All In A Dad’s Work

A Thoughtful Life

The Garden Grazer

A Simple, Village Undertaker

Adventures in Geology

My eleven questions for my nominated bloggers are;

  1. What’s one thing you’ve learned from blogging?
  2. Who do you most admire?
  3. What activities do you enjoy?
  4. Favorite place to be?
  5. Where do you do your blogging?
  6. What could be your theme song?
  7. Favorite book and/or video game?
  8. Coffee or tea?
  9. What is your biggest fear?
  10. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
  11. What’s your favorite movie?

Check out some new blogs, follow them, like them on Facebook and spread the love and SUNSHINE!

 

Why Do You Like Books So Much?

My son actually asked me that question this week. I’m always reading in my spare time or stopping by the library to pick up a book I’ve placed on hold, or veering toward the book store. He asked this out of frustration at being asked to go with me to pick up another book.

For me, books have always held magic. I find ideas for projects, I learn about a new interest, and I occasionally visit fictional worlds. Books get my creative juices flowing and I get excited about the things in between their covers.

Yesterday, as I paged through a new book about Little Free Libraries, I kept oohing and ahhing and saying, “look at this!” It’s a project I’ve planned to work on this winter and that book is perfect. For me.

B doesn’t share my enthusiasm for books. There was a time when he did and I was ecstatic. Not any more. I still read to him, when he’s interested. He has learned to read and gets his information, as it’s relevant to his interests, mostly digitally. Books are slow. Screens are fast and move more at pace with his brain.

I’ve struggled to accept that he may not be like me, in my love for books. Times are different and information is transmitted in different ways. Limiting him would be foolish. If he is to succeed in this world then I have to trust his process.

I’m The Mom, That’s Why

No, I’ve never uttered that phrase. It occurs to me now that it’s not a bad phrase if used properly, just like anything else. I use it in my head when I need to make tough decisions about how to deal with my son. It’s the fine line between being a permissive parent and being a gentle/positive parent.

My son is challenging and has always been. He’s super smart, active, opinionated, strong-willed, argumentative…and I wouldn’t have him any other way. His being difficult has made me a better parent, and I’d dare say, a better person.

Sometimes we butt  heads about things like personal hygiene. He’d like to have none of it. Sometimes he’d rather not leave the house on the weekends. Today was a perfect example. I needed to get groceries and feminine products, so I needed him to come with me. When we have stuff to do, we have to do it together.

I casually told him that I’d like to get groceries this afternoon and that if we went soon, most people would be watching the Packers game and there’d be fewer people at the store. Pretty sure I even threw in something about us sneaking in like ninjas to get what we needed. He said he didn’t want to go and he wasn’t going to go! There were probably a few colorful words thrown in because we use those at home and he likes to use them for emphasis.

So, I walked away for a few to gather steam, the good kind. I went back and said that it was important to go to the store because we needed food and some other things that were already used up. He suggested we grow our own food so we don’t have to go to the stupid store. I told him I appreciated his problem solving skills, but that would take longer than we had. I empathized with him not wanting to go and interrupting what he was doing. Since this was important, I asked him to choose whether he wanted to leave then or an hour from then. He said an hour, but that he still didn’t want to go. Got it. I did some other chores while he watched YouTube videos and played a couple of games.

When the timer went off, I told B it was time to go. He said something nasty to me and I told him he couldn’t speak that way to me and that I wasn’t speaking to him that way. I got my shoes on, grabbed my bag and headed to the car with him trudging angrily behind me.

We shopped, he lightened up, we rode the cart to the car and all was back to being right with the world. I could have just decided I wanted to leave, yelled at him to get in the car and spent a lot less time on the whole process. I want the connection though, even though it’s exhausting. I want him to know his feelings are important. I want him to know that I follow through on what I say. I also want him to know when it comes to the important stuff, we’re going to do it, whether we want to or not, but we’re going to get through it together.

Are You Calling Me a Liar?

This is the third year that our plastic dinosaurs have come to life for the month of November. Dinovember was started a few years ago by a mom and dad and has taken off in popularity. While I’m not always one to do what’s popular, I loved this when I first saw it and jumped on board mid month.

Many see this as a form of lying to children, joining the ranks of Elves on Shelves, Santa and Tooth Fairies. I’ve raised B on truth and it has often been incredibly difficult and at times led to painful discussions. I feel this is of the utmost importance for building trust. If my son can’t trust me, well I don’t think I’d be much of a parent. So, why on Earth would I partake in Dinovember?

To me it’s the very essence of the magic of childhood. He wakes up one morning and suddenly the dinosaurs are running around the house, having fun and making messes. They are being childlike.

B speculates about our roommates moving them. He wonders if the toys are like in the “Toy Story” movie. He asks questions and thinks critically. I marvel along with him and often reply, “that’s a good question,” when I very well may know the answer. This year B has even given the dinosaurs ideas of what they could do. I don’t remember him asking me if I move them, because I’m sure on some level he “knows” and doesn’t want to ruin the fun.

This month I use this as a form of “strewing” to spark interest; maybe in toys that haven’t been played with in a while or resources to further explore. I love that B wakes up and races to see what the dinosaurs have done. I also learn about B in the process. I’ve seen that he really lights up when the dinosaurs make things or do something special for us.

At the end of the month, they find some way to say farewell. B hasn’t realized this is tied into the month of November. He’s a little bummed when they’re done and queries throughout the year when they might “come to life” again.

As long as it keeps being fun, we’ll keep doing it. I’d love to hear your thoughts; the good, bad or ugly.

22 Questions to Ask Your Kids

I found this at All In A Dad’s Work‘s blog and thought it might be fun for B and me to do. One of the questions was deleted from his original list, since it wasn’t relevant to us. Enjoy the silliness!

Name:B

Age: 7
1.  What makes mom happy?

“Hugs”

2.  What makes mom sad?

“Not spending time with her.”

3.  How does mom make you laugh?

“By tickling me.”

4.  What was mom like as a child?

“I don’t know.”

5.  How old is mom?

“40”

6.  How tall is mom?

“5 inches, heehee…”

7.  What is mom’s favorite thing to do?

“Read”

8.  What does mom do when we’re not together?

“Go get groceries.”

9.  If mom becomes famous what will it be for?

“Being world’s weirdest mom.”

10. What is mom really good at?

“Reading”

11. What is mom not very good at?

“Lying”

12. What is mom’s job?

“Babysitting”

13. What makes you proud of mom?

“That she’s my mom.”

14. What is mom’s favorite food?

“Yogurt”

15. What do you and mom do together?

“Be cats.”

16. How are you and mom the same?

“We’re both tan, we both have blonde hair.”

17.  If your mom was a cartoon character who would she be?

“Scooby Doo”

18. How are you and mom different?

“I like playing screens a lot and having lots of money.”

19. How do you know mom loves you?

“Because you’re a bad liar.”

20. Where is mom’s favorite place to go?

“Stores”

21. How old was mom when you were born?

“Now that’s hard. That was seven years ago. You’re forty. I’m seven. 40, 39, 38, 37, 36, 35, 34, 33, 32!”

22.  What is something mom always says to you?

“I love you!”